In the text, "The Real World Dangers in an Online Reality: A Qualitative Study Examining Online Relationships and Cyber Abuse", authors Mishna, McLuckie, and Saini discovered that children are at a heightened risk for victimization through our advances in media, without even being in the geographic proximity (Mishma, McLuckie and Saini 107). They did a study that surveyed social media and the types of messages that children and teens sent back and forth to each other (Mishma, McLuckie and Saini 108). Many months and researchers were involved in this process to cover so much information, but at the end of the study they concluded with five catergoies of types of topics that were talked about the most amongest the kids (Mishma, McLuckie and Saini 108). Amongest the topics there was, extent and importance of online interaction and relationships, online dating, awarness of potential online dangers, cyber abuse (bullying, stalking, solicitation, and exposure to online pornogrophy), and not telling their parents (Mishma, McLuckie and Saini 109). So from this study, researchers were able to see that even when teens knew there could be potiential dangers, or they were already in danger, they still continued with their online realtionships. While in a relationship, one partner may be worried about ending things because they feel as if they may begin to miss the good times or even feel as if apart of them is missing. People in abusive relationships need to begin to realize that no good memories are worth being emotionally and physcially attacked by someone that claims to love you. 

 

This video is a prime exapmple of a relationship where there are clearly issues, but no one is willing to change things. And while in this video it may not be direct cyber dating abuse that you're witnessing, relationships between teens, such as the ones in the video, use technology that plays a huge role in their everyday lives. The friend of the girlfriend can clearly see there are issues and can see the damage the boyfriend is causing, but is not willing to hurt her friendship with her friend to speak up and say anything to help her. Even while the boyfriend is yelling at his girlfriend for no reason and physcially hurting her, through it all she thinks that she still loves him and he loves her. She is blind to the fact that he is really hurting her physcially and emotionally and thinks nothing is wrong with what is going on. There are many cases just like this one, where men and women are stuck in a realtionship and either are scared to leave or are scared to lose the good times that they share. 

 

 

 

 

 

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Cyber Dating Abuse

Dating abuse is not just happening in a physical form anymore, but over the internet as well in different forms of social media, and through texting/calling. From the text, "The Rate of Cyber Dating Abuse Among teens and How it Relates to Other Forms of Teen Dating Violence", the authors Zweig, Dank, Yahner, and Lachman talk of how with all the recent advances in technology, there are now new tools for those involved in dating violence to harass, control, and abuse their partners (Zweig, 1063). "They found eight ways in which partners used electronic communications, the last six of which were related to violence, abuse, or controlling behaviors: (1) establishing a relationship; (2) nonaggressive communication; (3) arguing (4) monitoring their activites; (5) emotional agression toward a partner; (6) seeking help during a violent episode; (7) distancing a partner's access to self by not responding to calls, texts, and other contacts via technology; and (8) reestablising contact after a violent episode" (Zweig, 1064). A lot of times teens do not think these relationships are harmful because they are over the internet and not in person, but in all acuallity they really just as bad, if not worse. Abuse over forms of media is so bad because social media takes up a large part of our time, it may begin to seem as if it is controlling us, and we are unable to get out of these situatuons.